Never mind the fact that we can push a human out of our bodies, we also can bleed for 5 days and live to see the next week...we are actually quite amazing human beings.
Aside from the physical beauty that we endure...emotionally we are quite unpredictable and there are a few days that I don't even understand myself. I wish I had the ability to wave a magic wand to prevent my girls from any weird "womanisms". I want to create an environment for my little loves that demonstrates what it is to be a woman that can love, embrace and encourage other women.
Don't be a Jealous Woman: Be genuinely happy for people you love. We should get that same rush when something amazing happens to someone else that we get when it happens to ourselves. Don't devalue your own blessings by wanting someone else's. Chances are, you have something someone else wants.
Embrace what you have.
Do not let bitterness entangle your soul.
Embrace what you have.
Do not let bitterness entangle your soul.
Become A Great Friend: Focus on the friendships that you want to fight for. Some may not work out, and it may be something you will just have to mourn and then walk away from. However, there are really great people in the world. Amongst the chaos of what you may see or experience, I have met some of my favorite people in the midst of transition or heartache and they continue to hold my hand through the good and bad. Choose kindness and loyalty above all. You have to think outside of yourself. Find out what your friends love and what you can do to make their day...be the friend that they need not the friend you expect them to be to you. What's the reward for that? Maybe nothing immediately, but I do believe it does a deep inner work within yourself over time.
Revenge, gossip- it's ugly on the inside and eventually will seep out. And as your mother, I will do my best to help redirect conversations we have about your peers. I truly care about your daily life and you will learn from how I respond to conversations about other people.
Revenge, gossip- it's ugly on the inside and eventually will seep out. And as your mother, I will do my best to help redirect conversations we have about your peers. I truly care about your daily life and you will learn from how I respond to conversations about other people.
Own Up: When you mess up, like we all do, own it. Be honest, come forward, even if no one else knows it. Just own it. Everyone makes mistakes and that's okay. Release any internal desire to become defensive.
Listen.
Internalize.
Even if you don't agree with the evaluation. Process to see if there is any truth before rolling your eyes. No one ever complained about the person who was too honest or forthcoming.
Not Everyone Will Like You: That's okay, honey. Let go of trying to make everyone like you and cling to those who truly care about your daily life. Chances are, you might lose the best by reaching towards the mediocre. You can only hold on to so much. Your number of friends doesn't give value to who you are. You have permission to disagree, you have permission to feel what may not be popular with everyone else, you have permission to go with your gut, you have permission to be bold, opinionated, loyal, a dreamer, a life long learner.
Social Media: If this is even still a thing for you: Refrain from social media revenge. You don't need to post quotes, blogs, or whatever else is out there as a method of revenge. Be courageous and tell people how you feel. Think the best of others, do your best to evaluate what they have going on in their life.
Social Media: If this is even still a thing for you: Refrain from social media revenge. You don't need to post quotes, blogs, or whatever else is out there as a method of revenge. Be courageous and tell people how you feel. Think the best of others, do your best to evaluate what they have going on in their life.
Need Him Not: A boyfriend should not fill any void. His presence or lack there of should not dictate your decisions, attitude, or self worth. He should only enhance who you are. If for any reason, you find yourself a complete loser of a man...trust my ability to spot them quickly. I have seen my fair share. I have complete confidence that the love your dad has shown you since day one will give you a clearer perspective on how any man in your life should treat you.
Be Better Than I Am: I truly desire for you to be the best version of you possible. I want you to be so much better than I am now. I promise to celebrate with you, push you to your limits, let you cry, let you process with adults other than myself, laugh daily together, pick you up with no strings attached, leave behind any hurt you may cause, paint your toenails when you are pregnant...I will do my best to be a consistent and loving mama.
Lastly, choose the wedding dress YOU want. And even when you walk out in your "perfect dress" that is green and black camouflaged which you had designed specifically for your hunter finance...I will hold in my opinion...
...to the best of my ability.
You girls are worth it.
Lastly, choose the wedding dress YOU want. And even when you walk out in your "perfect dress" that is green and black camouflaged which you had designed specifically for your hunter finance...I will hold in my opinion...
...to the best of my ability.
You girls are worth it.
