Whohabook

I waiver back and forth when it comes to what's appropriate concerning clothing.
Personally, I think there is much to say about someone's individual style.

I respect those who display their beauty through their clothing.
I love seeing the confidence in the apparel that isn't the norm.
I love love love fashion trends...I think they can be so much fun.

One thing that has not changed for me for years now is dressing with integrity (i'm not a huge fan of the word modesty).
I am not a turtle neck and sweat pants kind of girl.
I enjoy dressing trendy, fun, slimming, and dare I say sexy.
But I do think that the line that was drawn in the sand as been washed away by the tides of
"sexy is cleavage"
"sexy is midriff"
"sexy is tiny bathing suits"

Lies.
Lies.
Lies.

My facebook has been flooded by bathing suit pictures from spring breakers which doesn't bother me, but I realize that those same facebook pictures have been flooding my husbands facebook newsfeed.  He can't control what pops up.  My precious husband who has dedicated his life to me.

Personally, I don't think it's fair.

Let's be honest, the boobs and the whohas are covered...that's it.
So these past few weeks, my facebook has been personally renamed to "Whohabook".

If you are taking personal offense, I just would like to say this does not come from any kind of jealousy or misunderstanding of what's in style on my behalf.
I get it.
I understand that it's hard to find a cute suit that's a one piece but do you see what's happening??  Society is manipulating us into a one style culture.

 It's personally an ongoing battle for what we will do with Lucy, and she's only 9 months old.  Justin asked me if I would let L wear a 2 piece, which I was super wish washy about  and told him that I might, but I wouldn't let those pictures be on the web for everyone to stare out.  You NEVER know what creeper is looking at those.....staring.....day dreaming......get the gist, here?

Justin then asked if I was okay with the beach goers staring at Lucy the same way.  I don't know why I felt like there was a difference, but I did.
Two summers ago I was wearing a 2 piece and thought nothing of it.
Was that fair to the men going to the pool for an afternoon swim?  (I'm not saying my bod is something amazing but most men aren't that picky).


My awesome, beautiful friend said, "poor guys, they only have red blood."
That shook my soul a bit.

Red blood.

Why do so many men  struggle with pornography?
Red blood syndrome?

Victoria Secret Fashion Show with get this, 10.3 MILLION viewers.
Red Blood Syndrome?

Pastors, congressman, presidents, entertainers, everyday men having affairs.
Red Blood Syndrome?

Shorts are shorter, dresses are tighter, shirts are more low-cut.
Red Blood Syndrome?

I just want to put this out there, whether you agree or not.
Men are visual creatures.
The stare due to less clothing is because of sex, not because they think you are intelligent, funny, witty, or caring.

The Lord has more than likely blessed some of you with external beauty which you should embrace and take care of AND more importantly protect.

Justin bounces his eyes off the television anytime a sexual commercial or show comes on.
Why?
Because he knows he is a visual creature.  It has nothing to do with his love towards me or him not thinking I am beautiful, he is protecting our marriage.
He is protecting his bride.
He is protecting his children.

I know this may cause a stir...I am prepared.  I just know what is heavy on my heart.  If you are personally offended, I am okay with that.  I will remain to be non-judgmental but not afraid to be blunt and if you know anything about me, you know that is true.
Ultimately, this does not boil down to a one piece vs. a two piece, it's about personally choosing to protect the men around you that you may not even know.  Whatever that means to you.

As women, let's reclaim to being desired because of our personalities, dreams, what breaks our hearts and let our sexual beauty be the joy of marriage.